14 November 2009

We Have Sand

When I first moved in to this lovely new house, the previous owner offered to leave his sandpit for my children to play in. I thought to myself, "No way! I don't want sand through the lawn, through the house and in the beds!! Accepting this kind offer of a sandpit will only end in regret. Sand Regret." And so I politely declined the offer.

Soon I realised that a four year old boy must play, and if there is no sand, he will play in the gravel that lies on a few places in the yard. And lo, there was gravel in the lawn, gravel in the house, and gravel in the bed, if you can believe that.

And I found that afterall, I had Sand Regret. I began to want a sandpit, to stop the endless playing with gravel.

I thought long and hard about where to put a sandpit and how to do it, being a puny girl myself. I decided that rather than use some prime real estate on the lawn, I'd be better off using a corner of the yard that was already set aside, but being used for nothing at the moment.


I thought so. And if we were going to make the yard a fun place to be in, wouldn't it be good to fix up the old swings?

The problem was it was going to be a big job for a Mum whose hands were often filled (quite happily) with my little Joseph. What to do?

I decided to ask my brother how I should go about the job. I thought he'd be a good Sandpit Consultant. And he was. Last Tuesday morning there was a ring at the doorbell and there he was, having travelled 1700km to surprise me and help with the sandpit. What a champion.

I had offered him a free dinner if he'd help with the job but he was unavailable to collect on that, as he was catching up with some ladies as well (ooh la la.) I had also offered him a free dessert if he would do the job in a hard hat, but he forgot to bring a hard hat, so there goes that.

He got straight to work. First he attached the new seats to the swing set.

Then he started on the sandpit. He completed a frame, took out some little trees, did some thinking about ways I could finish off the sandpit and then he helped me do some other jobs around the garden, like re-planting one of the little trees.

My father helped me work out how much sand I'd need. I can't estimate quantity and he's a mathematician, so I get him to help with things like this. 0.6 cubic metres. Thanks Dad.

Then this morning Mr de Elba helped me finish the job. We went to a sand place, bought our 0.6 metres of sand ...

... and shovelled it into the sandpit.

A few weeks ago I bought these sand toys to help motivate me. Here they are in the finished sandpit. Okay, so there's an eggbeater in there. I didn't buy that specifically for the sandpit. My children use it to play with so often, and I don't use it to beat eggs, so it seemed like the place for it.

The final step was to add children. Very happy children.

And tonight as I walk through the house, I am feeling sand underfoot. Sand in the bath, sand on the floor, sand swept into piles waiting for me to remove it, sand, sand, sand.

And I find that despite achieving this long-term goal with help from the men in my life, when I should be 100% happy and satisfied that the job is done, instead ...

... I have a little bit of Sand Regret.

(I've done the right thing, haven't I?)

13 comments:

  1. What a wonderful brother!

    Please don't have sand regret, just look at those smiling faces... go on, I'll wait... see? so happy! Surely that's worth the hours (and hours) of extra sweeping? And won't Joseph have an awesome time eating all that sand in the near future? How could you possibly deny him the opportunity?lol

    I think I'll be having sand regret after christmas, too.

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  2. Sand in the kitchen is easy on your bare feet than gravel. It was definitely the righ decision. It's a wonderful sand pit. Big enough for several kids and lots of toys... get some plastic to cover it, though. You don't want to find dead birds and possum poo in it.

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  3. Ah yes, sand regret. I know it well.

    We have had a sandbox since Kiddo was 2. Ours is portable. It's a self contained, large, red, plastic crab with a lid (that makes the shell) like this: http://tinyurl.com/yctwpct

    So, while there was a bit less work involved in the bringing of a sandbox to our yard - nary a hot, Australian gent required! - I still have much experience with Sand Regret. When Kiddo would go out to play in the sandbox at our old house (the yard of which had zero shade), I'd feel obliged to slather her amply with sunscreen so after playing in the sandbox, she'd be completely coated with sand like Shake-n-Bake chicken.

    We brought the crab sandbox to our new house and set it out on the patio in the back yard. We never did get around to buying sand for it, so I did experience the joy that is a summer without Sand Regret. Kiddo never asked for us to get sand, so maybe that means she's beyond the age of sandboxes...?

    Oh, one last thing for my traditional, epic-length comment: When I was a kid, we had a homemade sandbox (thanks Dad!) that resided under a crabapple tree in our back yard. It had a rather ill-fitting lid (thanks Dad) so the various cats that dwelled upon our farm could easily manage to get into the sandbox, which of course resembled nothing more than a ginormous litter box filled with the softest kitty litter ever to their feline minds....... Made for some exciting surprises to be discovered as we dug through the sand.

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  4. You are the best mom. Your kids will love you for having that. And nice of your brother to come help!

    I think you will have no real substantial sand regret. Only sand energy and sand gratefulness and sand happiness.

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  5. They are rock stars! You have done the right thing.

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  6. Perfect play place. I would find a cover maybe so it won't turn into a litter box for roaming cats. What a nice bro. to come do that for you and his niece and nephews.
    Also, babypowder will help loosen sand on legs and hands.

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  7. Sand... yes it does get everywhere!

    Here's what I do, i keep a dust brush in the sand toy box... they have to dust all the sand off before coming inside... it hasn't stopped the sand from coming in, but it has certainly reduced the amount by heaps!

    Your brother is GREAT!

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  8. Wee Bro blows me away. He was always such a skinny little bookworm, and now look at him! Strapping, tanned, and useful.

    When I can forsee a sandy day coming up (though you can't always predict them) I leave a large nappy bucket of water and a towel at the back door, and they come inside clean.

    The majority of the sand that comes inside our house gets tipped out of Harpo's school shoes at the end of every day, so whether or not we have a sandpit at home is moot.

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  9. Sweet. I have Saxophone regret. But the child is a teen

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  10. I can't believe that your Wee Bro is all growed up! Where have the years gone?

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  11. How goes it big sis?
    The sandpit is choice?
    Were you surprised
    At the sound of my voice?

    Or the unannounced sight
    Of me at your door
    To stop this problem
    Of gravel on floor?

    I rang on the doorbell
    You opened the door
    I said “What’s goin’ on?”
    Holding tools galore

    Forgot my McHardhat
    So gave up dessert
    Remembered the mattock
    So could begin work

    It gave me some things
    To do with my time
    Rather than sit here
    At work writing rhymes

    Was a good week to come
    As 2 cousins had
    Their birthdays together
    That wasn’t too bad

    I got to catch up
    With heaps of old friends
    (Mostly the girls
    Wish I could see how that ends)

    One lovely lass
    From high school was here
    Back in the country
    After more than a year

    Too bad she’s going
    Back to UK
    After only a month
    Of sunny holiday

    One beautiful blonde
    Is leaving next year
    To join our fine Army
    As an officer, I fear :(

    A third gorgeous girl
    I’ve known 10 years
    Found me on Facebook
    We caught up over beers

    Strange though but true
    I knew her through school
    And yet never spoke to
    I thought she was too cool

    But she’s the nicest of ‘broads’ -
    Turns out I was wrong
    (She taught me that term)
    Shoulda been mates all along

    I went down the road
    To see Mr. Trent
    And helped him and Rachi
    To move house contents

    Was a good trip
    4000k’s round
    I saw heaps of stuff
    In air and on ground

    There were bustards and brolgas
    And ‘roos of all sorts
    And eagles and emus
    And wide load escorts

    So many a job
    Got done on that trip
    But none as important
    As your garden sandpit

    I’m glad it turned out
    As well as it did
    I hope it’s enough
    For you and the kids

    Don’t be afraid
    Sand pits are not boring
    And sand’s better than gravel
    On that floating flooring

    Sand regret's bad
    But it’s better than staying
    Sandpitless, and the kids
    Having nothing to play in

    When the bairns do outgrow
    This fine sandpit of ours
    You know that wee Joseph
    Will use it for hours

    Thanks to your readers
    For their kind accords
    (Are any of them hot,
    Single decent young ‘broads’?)

    I can’t believe I
    Just wrote that in prose
    In a public comment
    But that’s how it goes

    Bottom line is
    You’ve done the right thing
    Well, third bottom line
    ‘Coz this is the bottom line here.

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  12. I know. It's hard, but somebody's gotta do it. Jen: yup - I'm all growed old... which is mandatory. Growing up is optional. Aunt Debbi/Kurt's Mom: Saxophone regret comes and goes... violin regret is forever. And sax players get some cool after not long. Other sister: Your memory's going - I was never a book worm. And I was always useful. The nappy bucket seems to be the way to go.

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Thanks for picking up a ukulele and taking a potshot!